We married and lived happily ever… Well, we lived happily. It should always be a choice of an individual depending on his point of view and belief. In traditional Muslim societies, men and women do not mix freely. Rate this: +48 -12 Naipal Singh said: Oct 23, 2018 According to my opinion. The actual question ought to be whether you begin loving your spouse before marriage or after. For this, a successful marriage combines both aspects of love and arranged marriage- parents' approval and love and understanding of your partner. I feel your answers are not covering all what is going on with people.
Our experts will guide you properly. If I talk about love marriage than parents should also accept the proposal of their children to make them happy. What is an arranged marriage? In India, assets belong to the person who owns them. This is my last comment. And finding happiness within you, instead of another person. Before they move on to love.
Love at first sight, whether you believe in it or not, is not what carries a marriage through. Be it love marriage or arranged. Love Marriage: On the surface, love marriage seems perfect. Something I was exposed to by my future in-laws was something kind of like a survey. Rate this: +23 -3 Kiran Gajul said: Dec 22, 2018 I think, Love is the main factor that binds two individuals. Can you communicate with them? Epstein, a senior research psychologist at the American Institute for Behavior Research and Technology in Vista, California says.
They created engagements and so we follow them? Desai, since Islām does not allow a minor to conduct business or make financial decisions for himself or herself, a marital contract of a minor falls under the same premise. The ugly, unjust days of male supremacy are coming to an end. If you do not understand your partner from stem to stern then you should not have go through lover marriage. When all their choices were near-perfect, why not trust them on one of the most important decisions of your life? I keep believing that this is a test for us but everyday it gets harder for me to see her in so much distress. Just as problematic, when left to their own devices, people tend to use prescreening criteria that emphasize outward appearances looks, possessions, etc.
Rate this: +19 -7 Kammy said: Sep 3, 2018 So, You basically have 3 Options - Stay as a bachelor, Find the love of your life and go for love marriage, and, finally, trust your parents in hope that they will find a best match for you i. And for that sam ereason, does staying married amount to a successful marriage. Nothing's settled and in such matters what works today may not work tomorrow. I also believe that love is stronger when built through a marriage. There is no moral accountability for Indian parents who raise their children in the Indian culture, which is why the arranged marriage is an excellent vehicle to hide situations of abuse and infidelity. If anyone knows something about the Prophet sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam and his wives then it will be obvious that love between spouses is something encouraged in Islam.
They should think what is more important the community or their children. It is necessary for every relationship to be successful. Love marriage allows a person to know their partners in a better way that is likes, dislikes, comfort zones etc. If you enjoyed this article, you may enjoy my other posts on Indian arranged marriages. Palmistry of Free Love 1. Your post reminded me of a friend who went to India to get married. It's not an even playing field.
Because we prefer to arrange marriage. Rate this: +49 -14 Rahmath Pasha said: Jun 6, 2018 In my view, both have different criteria. When a marriage is arranged, both these problems are solved. In an arranged marriage, both the bride and the groom consent to have their marriage arranged with varying degrees of choice about when and whom to wed ; in a forced marriage, one or both of them is coerced into the marriage and does not give full, free, informed consent. On the opposite, love marriage eliminates the dowry because all that matters is the consensual decision to marry plus the parents would hopefully accept the marriage proposal and give their blessing. Also, readers who found this piece interesting might want to see my of 2012 rape protests in India. What if he brings home some unsuitable girl? Looking at the divorce rate in this country and teen pregnancy is it surprising how many kids don't grow up with both their biological parents.
Think about that, threatening death to someone under those circumstances. Those who marry for love, on the other hand, tend to be blinded by passion and so overlook these crucial details. She has nearly 1000 hours of counselling experience. It's a lot like investing - there are general trends and it is wise to follow them. Do they share the same background cultural and religious , socio-economic status, level of education, similar values? Welcome to the real world, not the world of articles and quotations from the Quran and Hadith. This is the dysfunctional Indian parents' flaw which fuels the cycle of abuse and self-centered behavior to their children and to their grandchildren. But arranged marriages are not forced marriages.
More often, unpleasant consequences arise only when love is obstructed or the period of courtship is very short. Anyone who tries to diss arranged marriages are just misinformed and biased. After the first few months when the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities of marriage have set in, people begin to feel dissatisfied wondering. Sorry to hear that sis, may Allah ease your pain. In love marriage, the most important factor is that destroy the dowry system. Use these cues to guide you.
So choosing the right partner from the outset is extremely important for the couple and for society as a whole — and assisted or arranged marriages go a long way to ensure long-lasting, committed and loving relationships. As long as there is mutual love and respect and a deep desire to keep the relationship focused around Allāh. In my opinion, dealing with the today's scenario where the parents are supportive there is not much difference between the love and arrange marriage because in both of them you get the time to know your partner. You can refer to Sheikh Yusuf Estes or Dr. Salam Aleykum Mustafa, I fully agree with you. Rate this: +32 -19 Ajay Chaudhary said: Jun 9, 2018 In my point of view, arrange marriage is preferred to love marriage in arrange marriage couples are respected by their socity and their family sport them strongly in present time every family gives enough time to their children for understanding to each other before marriage and parents always choose the best for their children and there is no quarrel among the members in arrange marriage and further generation of couples are nicely affected by arranging marriage after all I want to say that according to Indian civilization arrange marriage more acceptable than love marriage and arrange marriage follows a systematic order so arrange marriage preferable to love marriage.